Comments on: My Tribe http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/ A Mom Blog Sun, 05 Sep 2010 05:08:20 +0000 hourly 1 By: Denise M. Ruggieri http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13077 Denise M. Ruggieri Wed, 20 Jan 2010 16:30:27 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13077 Hi Nell, This is a wonderful post. It truly spoke to me. I know exactly how you are feeling. I am thankful though for this online world of friends to keep things interesting. Feel free (and all of you who commented too!) to keep in touch with me. Stop by my blog Blessings from Above, http://blessingsfromabove2blogspot.com and say hi! I've subscribed to your blog and I am looking forward to reading more about you and your world. Blessings! Denise Hi Nell,

This is a wonderful post. It truly spoke to me. I know exactly how you are feeling. I am thankful though for this online world of friends to keep things interesting. Feel free (and all of you who commented too!) to keep in touch with me. Stop by my blog Blessings from Above, http://blessingsfromabove2blogspot.com and say hi! I've subscribed to your blog and I am looking forward to reading more about you and your world.

Blessings!
Denise

]]> By: Erin Hill http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13040 Erin Hill Sun, 17 Jan 2010 23:51:07 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13040 Every time I read your posts I can totally relate. I think all women can...I think it's harder for us to make those connections than men for some reason. For the longest time I didn't connect with other women on a deeper level (not since my high school friends). But, I took a big risk and moved out of state, quit my job, and became a stay-at-home-mom. I tried a couple of moms groups, and tried to connect with neighbors. All were nice people, but I didn't connect. Then I found my current moms group, and I seriously connect with about 3 of the other women. So keep trying, don't give up. The reason I think I connected with them is because they are real and aren't afraid to talk about the "lows" of motherhood as well as the "highs". I think that's why it's easier to make "blogging" friends. Bloggers pour out their soul in some of their posts because there is a sort of anonymity in blogging. So you feel like you REALLY know other bloggers. But, when you meet with women in "real" life, there is a certain facade up that you have to break through. And most women don't feel comfortable enough to let this facade down. We all feel like we have to be perfect, and are afraid to own up to our imperfections. Anyway, that's what I think the problem is. I hope you do find your local "tribe". I think you will if you keep looking and putting yourself out there. I'm looking forward to reading your new blog, too. Every time I read your posts I can totally relate. I think all women can…I think it's harder for us to make those connections than men for some reason. For the longest time I didn't connect with other women on a deeper level (not since my high school friends). But, I took a big risk and moved out of state, quit my job, and became a stay-at-home-mom. I tried a couple of moms groups, and tried to connect with neighbors. All were nice people, but I didn't connect. Then I found my current moms group, and I seriously connect with about 3 of the other women. So keep trying, don't give up. The reason I think I connected with them is because they are real and aren't afraid to talk about the "lows" of motherhood as well as the "highs". I think that's why it's easier to make "blogging" friends. Bloggers pour out their soul in some of their posts because there is a sort of anonymity in blogging. So you feel like you REALLY know other bloggers. But, when you meet with women in "real" life, there is a certain facade up that you have to break through. And most women don't feel comfortable enough to let this facade down. We all feel like we have to be perfect, and are afraid to own up to our imperfections. Anyway, that's what I think the problem is. I hope you do find your local "tribe". I think you will if you keep looking and putting yourself out there. I'm looking forward to reading your new blog, too.

]]> By: Courtney@ChaosIsUs http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13039 Courtney@ChaosIsUs Sun, 17 Jan 2010 13:59:56 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13039 I have one close friend who i refer to as my sister. We have been through it all together and in the end i love and trust her asif the same blood runs through our veins. I do have a few other friends but i am not close with them like i am with her and usually can go weeks without really talking to them. I too wish i had that tribe but it seems most groups tend to push me out since i am a young mother (had my first child at 18). I dont feel accepted and and end up isolated. That is why i prefer the internet. People are not as judgemental and accept me for who i am not my age or any other factor. .-= Courtney@ChaosIsUs´s last blog ..<a href="http://chaosisus.blogspot.com/2010/01/sione-2-months.html" rel="nofollow">Sione' - 2 Months</a> =-. I have one close friend who i refer to as my sister. We have been through it all together and in the end i love and trust her asif the same blood runs through our veins. I do have a few other friends but i am not close with them like i am with her and usually can go weeks without really talking to them.

I too wish i had that tribe but it seems most groups tend to push me out since i am a young mother (had my first child at 18). I dont feel accepted and and end up isolated. That is why i prefer the internet. People are not as judgemental and accept me for who i am not my age or any other factor.
Courtney@ChaosIsUs´s last blog ..Sione' – 2 Months My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Musings of a Housewife http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13036 Musings of a Housewife Sat, 16 Jan 2010 01:31:47 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13036 HM. I seem to find a group of friends wherever I go, but it takes time, and I can't say they are always kindred spirits. But I grow to appreciate them for who they are, for our similarities, AND our differences, kwim? And it DEFINITELY takes time. (hug) I hope you find your tribe. It's nice to find good friends online, but nothing quite takes the place of friends in real life who can bring you dinner or lend an ear when you need it. I wish you lived near me. I know we would hit it off! .-= Musings of a Housewife´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.musingsofahousewife.com/2010/01/nyc-with-martha.html" rel="nofollow">NYC with Martha</a> =-. HM. I seem to find a group of friends wherever I go, but it takes time, and I can't say they are always kindred spirits. But I grow to appreciate them for who they are, for our similarities, AND our differences, kwim? And it DEFINITELY takes time. (hug) I hope you find your tribe. It's nice to find good friends online, but nothing quite takes the place of friends in real life who can bring you dinner or lend an ear when you need it. I wish you lived near me. I know we would hit it off!
Musings of a Housewife´s last blog ..NYC with Martha My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Stephanie http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13030 Stephanie Fri, 15 Jan 2010 06:47:45 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13030 I'm with Becca. All the cool bloggers are in Tucson, AZ. :) And it's sunshiny. And we could form our own tribe. What do you say? .-= Stephanie´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/metropolitanmama/~3/XOjXN6RM93s/" rel="nofollow">Here In The Darkness</a> =-. I'm with Becca. All the cool bloggers are in Tucson, AZ. :)

And it's sunshiny. And we could form our own tribe. What do you say?
Stephanie´s last blog ..Here In The Darkness My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: WackyMummy http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13014 WackyMummy Thu, 14 Jan 2010 01:25:29 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13014 I hear ya. I don't have that either. I don't know if that's possible, even. A tribe of like-minded women... girlfriends in person... kindred spirits. I hope you find yours. I'm still looking for mine. .-= WackyMummy´s last blog ..<a href="http://wackymummy.blogspot.com/2010/01/this-morning.html" rel="nofollow">this morning</a> =-. I hear ya. I don't have that either. I don't know if that's possible, even. A tribe of like-minded women… girlfriends in person… kindred spirits. I hope you find yours. I'm still looking for mine.
WackyMummy´s last blog ..this morning My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Christine Steendahl http://casualfridayeveryday.com/2010/01/11/my-tribe/#comment-13009 Christine Steendahl Wed, 13 Jan 2010 03:23:18 +0000 http://casualfridayeveryday.com/?p=2955#comment-13009 Nell, I really hope you can find a local tribe. I have one, and I wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING! We are a group of moms who live in our small community, our kids (for the most part) all go to the same school (which is private, so we all to some extent have similar values), and honestly we would do ANYTHING for each other! We all love each others kids, watch each others kids, cry on each others shoulders, celebrate with each other, and most importantly trust each other. We meet for Bible Study every other week, see each other at school each day (there are no buses here, so we see each other at drop off & pick-up), we have a fun mom's night out once a month, connect daily with each other on Facebook, and get together individually throughout the month. I wouldn't trade it for anything! One suggestion would be to find out if you have a MOPS group in your area... or have you tried just doing a search for playgroups in your area? I did that when we moved and I had no idea who anyone was in town and that helped a ton too! For now, hang in there, and know that your bloggy friends are always here for you! .-= Christine Steendahl´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.dinewithoutwhine.com/blog/hoppertogs" rel="nofollow">Hoppertogs</a> =-. Nell, I really hope you can find a local tribe. I have one, and I wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING! We are a group of moms who live in our small community, our kids (for the most part) all go to the same school (which is private, so we all to some extent have similar values), and honestly we would do ANYTHING for each other! We all love each others kids, watch each others kids, cry on each others shoulders, celebrate with each other, and most importantly trust each other. We meet for Bible Study every other week, see each other at school each day (there are no buses here, so we see each other at drop off & pick-up), we have a fun mom's night out once a month, connect daily with each other on Facebook, and get together individually throughout the month. I wouldn't trade it for anything! One suggestion would be to find out if you have a MOPS group in your area… or have you tried just doing a search for playgroups in your area? I did that when we moved and I had no idea who anyone was in town and that helped a ton too! For now, hang in there, and know that your bloggy friends are always here for you!
Christine Steendahl´s last blog ..Hoppertogs My ComLuv Profile

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