May 8, 2008
Boy or Girl?
What do you want this time? I hope you have a girl. You need to have a girl. God help you if you have another boy. You need a sweet little girl to spoil and dress up.
I have to admit that my husband and I both preferred a girl with this pregnancy up until a few days ago. I then had a change of heart. I honestly don’t care what the sex of the baby is as long as it’s healthy and full term.
I don’t know what triggered the change of heart…maybe I had time to digest this pregnancy and to realize it really never mattered to me what the sex was. I simply was thrilled to add to our beautiful family…add a healthy full term baby.
I didn’t read that pregnancy stick and immediately say “Oh, finally my chance for a girl”. I thought “we’re going to grow our beautiful family by one more member” I felt joy, shock (unexpected) and excitement. I voiced my desire for a healthy baby, a beautiful soul entrusted to me.
I’ve said that with all my pregnancies. As do most pregnant woman. Sometimes I wonder if we really think about what that truly means. Are we saying that because that is what’s expected of a Mother to say?
I know that sometimes that answers rolls off my tongue without much of a second thought. Even though I mean it I don’t often sit and really ponder how powerful that statement really is.
I was reading about Heather and the loss of her beautiful son only three weeks from being born and I’m fully awakened to how powerful it is to wish that. In the blink of an eye something can happen to that boy or girl growing and living inside of you.
Caring about the sex of the baby is so trivial when you put everything into perspective. I’ll be so blessed to receive another beautiful gift from God in the boy variety or the girl variety. Blessed to hold a healthy full term baby. Blessed and walking around in a cloud of bliss to welcome either a boy or girl.
My heart bleeds for Heather and her family. What they must be going through today as they induce labor to deliver their sweet little Sawyer who is already waiting for them in Heaven.
So, you may ask me “what sex baby do you want this time” and my answer will be “whatever the sex of this baby it’ll be a blessing and welcomed addition to our family”
Please pray for Heather and her family today.
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So true. Gender seems so trivial when we know what it really means to be a parent and we can appreciate the miracle that life is.
I will remember Heather in my prayers today as I can relate to what she is going through on a smaller scale.
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I understand totally. Having two boys as well- this is all I still here. People mean well and are just curious but all you want is a healthy full term baby.
Having had some pg complications this time around all we want is a healthy full term baby. The sex never has mattered. It's fun to speculate.
Sorry to hear about Heather- it's always hard to hear about loss in pregnancy
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Yes, having three boys and expecting again… you can only imagine everyone's comments that this one better be a girl. And if it isn't? I'm totally fine with that! I know boys, I love boys, and if God gives me another little boy there is a reason for it… maybe I can't handle a little girl! Maybe I am meant to be the mama to boys. I would of course love a girl, but I am fine with a little guy. With my third pregnancy I will admit that I really really wanted girl.. but this time? I honestly don't really care either way - like you said a healthy little one is all I ask for. I can't imagine losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy, and my heart goes out to all who have experienced losses. Thankfully, to date I have not had to endure such sadness. Heather is in my prayers.
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P.S. I am impressed you already have names picked out! That takes us FOREVER!
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I know you will be happy either way. Good Lord up above knows what he is doing. Babies are such miracles.
I get all the time… are you not going to try for a boy? No, I'm just fine with my girls. Yes I would love to have another baby, but I wouldn't do it to just get a boy.
You will be blessed either way
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Christine - I have to agree…if I get another boy maybe God just knows I'd be a better Mama to boys! Who knows.
Exactly, it is so trivial! I agree
Somehow the non-pregnant, non-parenty people just don't get that.
When I was pregnant with my second son, my third son, and my fourth son …. it was all I heard "Do you know what you're having? I hope it's a girl. It better be a girl." Blah, blah, blah. Eventually b the time I had my youngest I ran out of polite ways to tell people to shut up and get over it LOL Of course then I had to hear about the hormones were making me cranky too, and how that probably meant it was a girl….
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